So, I've been spending quite a lot of time with a friend of mine that's a boy. Shopping, cinema- mainly because he's the only one of my friends who doesn't have lots and lots of heavy revision to do for exams in May/June (I don't, either, obviously). I've noticed a thing, though, when we're paying- or getting super sized cokes at the cinema counter that will inevitably lead to needing to pee halfway through the movie but arrogance in the capability of my (overflowingly full) bladder being able to hold on for the full two and a half hours always finds me there buying one anyway.
So, this obviously intriguing 'thing', is the fact that a girl (or woman, am I a woman yet? Well, I guess I am. Too much information.) cannot be out with a close guy friend alone without the majority of people assuming that you're in a relationship with that person. Either that or they assume that the guy completely is in love with the girl and he is in 'the friendzone' (I believe that this is a zone certain men who don't get what they want from a woman have created in order to make the woman pity them or feel bad about not actually wanting to be with that person- either that or something that women have created to let men know that they only want to be friends and to give them hope but in a super strange, twisted way... I'm not really sure which, or where it came from but the concept strikes me as odd, since when did guys being friends with girls have to have an actual label?).
Example: In New Look the other day, I was with a good friend and saw a pair of high heeled platforms that were on sale and decided I just had to buy them. He, of course, tried to persuade me against it as I'm pretty much broke anyway and having another pair of shoes would probably make my room fall through the floor (they're so high I can't really walk in them anyway but don't tell him that- I don't want ANOTHER 'I told you so' situation on my hands).
Anyway, as I was paying the woman was awkwardly making conversation and Matt (my friend) decided to make a light hearted joke about how they were obviously his purchase, which I laughed at- the woman, as we were about to leave, made a comment about Matt being a gentlemen and was he going to carry my bags for me that a) obviously implied that she thought we were a couple and b) meant that he felt a little obliged to then carry my bags for me.
All the way back to my house we scrutinised her reaction and why she thought that we would be a couple and the only logical explanation I could come up with was the fact that Matt was willing to come into New Look in the first place.
I'm not really sure what the point of this post is... Probably just me being frustrated at the fact people label very easily. If you can take a deeper meaning out of it, then please do, and let me know so that I can explain to everyone I wasn't just letting everyone know my cinema and bladder habits and that I was really trying to get a point across.
Happy Easter to you all.
Contemplating whether she has become a more boring blogger.
B x
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